Mostly about cake and guests

Wow, time is simply flying.

We decided on our baker and the cake this week. One of the nice things about the three bakers we looked at is that the price was basically the same for all, so we could really go with our preference and not take price into consideration.

We are having Patisserie Margo bake our cake. She has a bakery and only does one wedding cake per day [per weekend?]. Her confections are fabulous. Her flour less chocolate cake is the best I have ever eaten. She totally understands that we don't want things to be too sweet, that we like alternative but not artificial sweeteners and since wedding cakes are not her big focus she has the time to customize ours for us.

As it stands now we are planning on a 3 tier cake. 8", 10" and 12". Round layers. One layer Chocolate, with tart cherries and whipped cream filling, one layer almond nut cake with on filling layer of apricot puree/agave nectar cream and then the smallest layer, Guinness ginger cake with lemon/whipped cream filling. It will be frosted with vanilla Italian meringue butter cream frosting and decorated with flowers [pansies and ivy]. I feel a tiny bit fraught that we put down a deposit and didn't actually fill out an order form. We seem to be finding very laid back people to work with -- it will be a drag if it comes back and bites us on the @ss. It sounds so yummy and we should have some leftovers for later.

I also heard through my eldest sister that some a couple who I invited were thrilled to get the S-T-D and can't wait to come in October. This makes me so very happy. I hoped they would be able to make it but they said they were honoured, the sweeties. It was very good news.

My dress angst still continues. I may have a plan though. It involves fabric samples.

Fairly quiet week

Many small wedding related things happened this week. I still continue to wonder about that Ivory dress on and off.

We registered a bunch at Bed, Bath and Beyond. And decided that Home Depot for gardening stuff is somewhere DF really wants to register so we did. We ran into some of DF's family at BB&B and she took advantage of the synchronicity and asked her niece to be an attendant. I am so glad that is done. I was not slow in asking her for her dress size because as soon as I saw her again I worried about the dress I had being too big. [even though it could be easily taken in] She said she is a 4 sometimes a 6. Luckily I had no problem finding and getting a 6. I can't wait until she can try it on.

We had some great contact with friends. One of our musician friends said he would be honored to play at our ceremony, so we are delighted about that. One of my oldest friends called me on Tuesday, he is definitely coming out from Oakland. I am so delighted! All in all a great week. I think we are going to have a lovely wedding and a fun reception. 2 bakers to check out in the next 10 days, and in 6 months we'll be at our reception probably getting ready to dance. Wow. 182 days to go!

first freak out

I have had time to think over the past few days and had my first official freak out about the wedding. I think it was nudged by my mother's concern that my sleeveless dress won't cover my tattoo which 'won't look very elegant'. I laughed it off but it totally fed into my 'why am I wearing a ivory dress?' thoughts. Then it just blossomed into: it's all too traditional and too weird and no one will have a nice time and why the heck are we doing this; we're gay and maybe my fiancee hates everything we planned and eloping is sounding pretty good and, and, and.

DF reassured me that the reasons we made the plans we made are still valid. We could have planned a romantic woodland ceremony but that would have been iffy in October as well as quite hard on our elderly guests. No this isn't the only type of wedding we would like but it will be nice, and then we'll have a great dinner and party afterwards.

I reassured myself that I do not have to wear the dress I bought if I decide not to. Although I think I'll love it once it is altered to me. I am not stuck with it. I can go buy dark red if I want. I basically feel more rational again so that is good. Wow weddings are something.

I also enjoyed reading Stalling's: 'offbeat Bride' and Wicoff's: 'I do but I don't'. Both quite thought provoking though coming from a straight feminist perspective is not always the same as a gay perspective.